The Universe is changing all the time.
The direction of that change depends on many factors that are themselves changing.
When it comes to humans and human experience, change is also continuous — even when we appear to do nothing.
If we think we are doing nothing, we are still repeating habitual patterns: patterns of perception, thought, reaction and behaviour. Repetition itself creates change. Each repetition strengthens the pattern.
Habits themselves are neither good nor bad. They are simply habits. This is how the nervous system works: what we repeat becomes more strongly wired into our neuronal networks.
The question is not whether we have habits, but which habits we have. When we repeat dysfunctional habits that cause pain and suffering — to ourselves and/or others — they grow stronger. When we repeat functional habits, they grow stronger.
If you want to change a habit, you need to work. Wishing will not change it. You have to stop repeating the old habit — and, more importantly, stop feeding whatever sustains it. Then you have to practise a new habit and repeat it long enough to establish it.
Because old habits die hard, expect to slip back into the old pattern several times before the new one takes hold. But if you persist, it will.
Understand this: an intention to change is not change. If somebody — including you — says they want to change but does not do the work, their existing habits will determine the direction of their change, no matter how much love and support they receive.
The conclusion is simple: do not kid yourself. If you want something new — Work!